What Makes For A Wonderful And Authentic Wedding Ceremony? Imperfection...

John & Rebecca Ibsen, Married on July 5, 2007

Kiana Lodge, Poulsbo, WA

**Photo Courtesy of the wonderful Clare Marie:

www.claremariephotography.com

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May I be blunt? In this work that I do, I see a lot of "behind the scenes stuff." And truly, what appears to be "true" in those perfect wedding magazines, usually isn't so. And who wants a perfect wedding day anyway?

It's the wedding day imperfections that are often the "icing on the cake" - literally! I work work with couples who are charming and laid-back, confident in their planning and who allow others to step in and take care of them for a day or weekend.

I also work with couples who micro-manage details and who are so over concerned about "getting things right" that they often miss out on the joy of an imperfect day - and the laughter and gleeful memories that accompany imperfection.

So, on a wedding day, embrace imperfection. Know that some details may not come together and that's darn okay.

This past weekend, I had six wonderful weddings with couples who were all truly marvelous. Cheers to: Andrea and Brandon, Reza and Jessica, Aubree and Kurt, Susie and Thom, Kimberly and Paul and my long-distance couple (the drive was worth it!) - John and Maggie!

The Wedding Weekend of "Rain" - Tents, Tents, Tent...and More Tents!

The Fabulous Andy & Kristin Pfandler

Married July 14, 2007, Laurel Manor, Sumner, WA

Last weekend, I married Andy and Kristin and you couldn't find enough shade or get enough to drink - it was that hot!

Well, this past weekend was another story.

Rain, rain rain - and on one of the most reliable wedding weekends of the summer.

Edward and Nichole beat the rain by being married at the Smith Tower on the sunny Thursday before all of this weather chaos. Terry and Tara beat the rain on Friday evening at the Woodlake Park Rose Garden, only to be blessed by raindrops as they were pronounced husband and wife (very fun!).

Now, Saturday. I was in Sammamish at Beaver Lake Park and married Martin and Dee Dee - they had good weather but I'm still wondering what the rest of the afternoon was like for them. And then it was on to Tarboo Bay on the Olympic Peninsula for the festive and remarkable wedding of Peter and Kelsey - where we broke out the umbrellas and 200+ guests were good-hearted about Mother Nature.

And after hearing that yesterday (Sunday) was supposed to be the "rain of all rains," the day was remarkably subdued. Nicholas and Katherine were married under tents (smart couple!) in Bellevue and Brian and Suzanne shared their commitment in front of family and friends at Kiana Lodge, Poulsbo.

So, here's to a wedding weekend that will be remembered for years go come!

** Photo courtesy of the wonderful Amy Parsons: www.amyparsons.com

Your Wedding License - Bring It, Pack It - Whatever It Takes To Have It With You On Your Wedding Day!

The Wonderful Muraari and Erin Vasudevan...

Married June 29, 2007, Washington Park Arboretum

I'm supposed to be taking the day off so I'll make this short and sweet - and good!

The Wedding License. What is all the hoopla?

Well, if you don't have one, an Officiant can't marry you. It's as simple and as complicated as that. While I gently remind each of my couples several times to bring/carry/pack their license, once or twice a year there is a snafu (like on 7/7/07 for me this year) and things get complicated.

1. If you are having a rehearsal, bring your wedding license to rehearsal.
2. If you don't have a rehearsal or forget to bring your license to rehearsal, pack your license and double-check before leaving the house for your wedding ceremony.

Please remember, there is a three-day waiting period from the date you apply for/pick-up your license - i.e., you need to build in three days of "wait time" before you can be married.

Good Luck, Synchronicity - Whatever You Call It, 7/7/07 Is One Of The Biggest Wedding Days Of This Decade...

Luke and Amanda Krupski, Delille Cellars

June 21, 2007

"I officiated Luke and Amanda's wonderful ceremony on a gorgeous Thursday evening, with one of the largest and most fun wedding parties I have worked with in a long time Congratulations, Luke and Amanda!

photo courtesy of the wonderful Ron Shaw at www.alwaysfocusedonyou.com

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As I write this, I am heading into a full work weekend and everyone I know who works within the world of weddings, is feeling a bit maxed/overloaded and "over-the-top."

You see, it's 7/7/07.

Huh?

Apparently, this marvelous combination of numbers has a meaning of "good luck" and many couples have chosen this day to be married. To be truthful, I've probably turned down over 100 couples for this day alone. And an Officiant friend of mine in Las Vegas says they are starting weddings on the :15 minute increment and going thru 2:00 a.m.

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So, here is to all of the couples who will be married on 7/7/07....And to the five wonderful couples I am marrying: Suzi and Scott, Sarah and David, Barrett and Lisa, Nancy and Tim, Sharlene and Jacob.

What I Know For Sure About Weddings With a Big, Large (Grande!) Guest List!

Shawn & Nicola, 2007

Grand Hilton Hotel, Seattle, WA

photo courtesy: www.jenandjody.com

I had the honor of marrying the very delightful Nicola and handsome Shawn in a wedding ceremony before a packed room of family and friends at the Grand Hilton Hotel this Spring.

Nicola and Shawn had quite the troop of family and friends - a very large gathering of people who were so happy about the marriage of this very delightful couple.

If you are planning a wedding with a large guest list, here are a three things I know for sure - tips I've picked up from "working behind the scenes" at many a wedding:

- If you have a large guest list, please consider my :30 minute rule - i.e., if you're having a 4:00 p.m. wedding, put 3:30 p.m. on your invites. This gives you more room to elegantly welcome people and fudge time if there are traffic snafus, etc.

- If you can squeeze it into the budget (delete other things!), hire a "day of" coordinator to help be your "air traffic controller" on your wedding day. In my opinion, there isn't better money spent. And if you'd like a referral, please let me know.

- Give guests a "job" and/or directions. Before your pronouncement in your wedding ceremony and/or in your ceremony program, give guests directions on "what to do next" once the ceremony is concluded. People like knowing what's going on and if they have have a strong sense of "what to do next," your reception starts in a smoother manner.

Making Your Wedding Processional Uniquely Your Own...Beginning your Wedding Ceremony...

Lauren & Steven

May 12, 2007, Whidbey Island, WA

On Saturday, May 12th, I had the honor of marrying Lauren and Steve at the Whidbey Institute on Whidbey Island.

Lauren and Steven made the opening of their ceremony uniquely their own. A large bell was rung to signal the beginning start of their ceremony. Beautiful harp music then began and the wedding party entered. For their entrance, Lauren and Steven together walked down a high dirt path outside of the ceremony area and took their time - enjoying the two minutes or so that it took them to make their way to the ceremony area. And when they entered, there were smiles all the way around.

As you work to create your ceremony start or "processional," look for elements to add that make it unique and special for the two of you. You don't have to do the "same 'ol, same 'ol" when it comes to a processional. Today, couples are shaking up ritual so that a wedding ceremony reflects a couple's tastes, interests, relationship and elegantly includes family and friends.

Wedding Ceremony Weather - Rainy, Cool, Very Hot - A Few Important Planning Tips...

Ryan and Jennifer Bolz *

May 27, 2007, Parsons Garden, Seattle

"and the sun shined through...

I officiate at many outdoor wedding ceremonies.

And there is this thing called "Northwest weather."

In planning your outdoor ceremony here are a few ideas and thoughts to consider if you need to go to "Plan B" on your wedding day:

On the morning of your wedding ceremony: Don't wait until an hour or two before your ceremony to make a decision about the rainy or cloudy weather. To make things easier and more elegant your wedding day, make your best decision as early as possible as to the location of your wedding ceremony and stick with it.

Create a "weather team" - Yes, if a week or so before your wedding the weather forecast is looking iffy, assign a couple of people jobs and tasks if you need to go to "Plan B." This way, there is a plan in place with specific people to move the ceremony indoors, call a list of guests, etc., change venues, etc. And if the weather is looking iffy and you still want to hold your ceremony outdoors, reserve and rent a tent for the occasion.

"Rain" is one thing - "Heat" is another - In this work that I do, I've officiated in the cold and rain and more often than this, in the blazing heat. And here is what I know for sure: many of my couples get married in the hot summer months and being married in 90' degree sun isn't comfortable. If you are being married outdoors and on a very hot summer day, consider being married in the shade (makes for better pictures!) or under some cover so that you and your family/friends aren't melting.

Just thoughts for this cloudy Monday morning...

*** Beautiful photo by Sean Werner, Werner's Photography, www.weddingphotog.com

Welcoming & Seating Your Guests For An Elegant Start To Your Ceremony

Scott & Pamela Faulkner

May 20, 2007

Hollywood Schoolhouse

I had a surprise a week ago at Scott & Pamela's wedding!

Scott and Pamela had a fairly large community of family and friends at their mid-afternoon wedding ceremony - and not only did the group seat themselves without any prompting, but they were the most "on time" group of people I have seen in a long time!

Welcoming Guests: To elegantly welcome your guests, have two people at the door to greet people as they walk in. This gives guests an idea of what is going on - when things are starting, where to put a coat, where the restroom is, etc.
Seating Guests: Having been to more weddings than most, I can tell you that most guests like to seat themselves. While ushers are a nice touch and appreciated by some people, the majority of people tend to want direction on seating but prefer not to be ushered and formally seated. Considering this, have two people as "seating directors," offering seats to people so that the aisles are filled first and the seats in the front are also filled just before the ceremony starts.

** photo by Kate McElwee: www.katemcelweephotography.wordpress.com

Your Wedding Rehearsal - 3 Top Rehearsal Tips To Insure An Elegant Ceremony...

Ryan and Erin Bowles,

Married May 19, 2007, Tyee Yacht Club

Go Team Bowles!

In this work that I do, I've been to many rehearsals. And rehearsal parties come in many shapes and sizes: big and small, organized and chaotic, emotional and stressed, fun/festive and uptight/concerned, full of humor and a tad more serious.

A wedding brings up all sorts of emotions. It's a ritual of transition and transformation - from one stage of life to another. So, given that emotions are often all over the map at rehearsal and on a wedding day, here are three top tips to consider when planning your wedding rehearsal:

1) 30 MINUTE RULE. Often, people are late to rehearsal. So, to keep any dinner or afternoon/evening engagements and appointments, tell everyone to arrive at 5:00 p.m. if your rehearsal is at 5:30 p.m. By having everyone arrive "30 minutes early," you give people a chance to mix and mingle, take a breath and everyone is then unknowingly on schedule.

2) BRING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE. I request that my couples bring their marriage license to rehearsal. This insures that I have the license for the wedding day and it's one last thing for you to worry about.

3) GET CREATIVE. When you are at your wedding venue for rehearsal, talk to your Officiant/Minister about 'staging,' i.e., creative placement of wedding party, how your Officiant may move around in the ceremony, etc. Often, your Officiant has ideas for making a ceremony more fluid and interesting once they get a sense of the venue and your best wishes for your ceremony. For instance, many of my couples now choose to face their family and friends instead of each other or me. This gives family/friends and opportunity to more fully experience a wedding ceremony and also makes for some very beautiful pictures.

Handsome Henry - A Rescue "Miracle" - From Blind to Sight...

HANDSOME HENRY, Blind & Neglected, Rescued 2/13/07

Eye Sight Restored in Left Eye, March 2007

Adopted to Loving & Forever Home, April 2007

While I love my ceremony work - and do this work full-time - another huge part of who I am is all about rescuing and rehabilitating abused and neglected companion animals.

Please indulge me - I'd like to share a little joy. No, alot of joy!

Working with two of my dedicated rescue pals, Barbara and Carl, we rescued a nameless blind cocker spaniel from certain death in mid-February. We named this furball "Handsome Henry" and under a ton of mats and hair, we found the most beautiful cocker spaniel.

Working with Barbara's small and mightly animal rescue organization, www.vipp.org, and through the generosity of several benefactors, Handsome Henry's eye sight was restored in one of his eyes on March 6th. He endured four weeks in an elizabethan collar (no fun for a dog) and repeated visits to and from the doggie eye doctor to insure the healing of his fixed eye.

And now, Henry can see!

He's gone from blind to catching biscuits and watching everyone and everything. It was amazing journey for us to be with a dog who was born blind and then one day woke up and saw the world around him.

And in keeping with Handsome Henry's good fortune, he has been adopted by a wonderful lady and now lives in the lap of luxury in a nice house with his choice of bedrooms!

Handsome Henry - and all the dogs that I work with in this rescue work that I do - help keep me in the present. The courage of these dogs who have endured so much suffering and abuse is an inspiration in all that I do. While I deeply love my ceremony work, nothing brings me as much true personal joy as helping to relieve a companion animal of suffering. Well, okay, perhaps watching a "wedding dog" walk down the aisle in pure delight, celebrating the wedding of his/her guardians!

Creating A "Gratitude Surprise" Within Your Wedding Ceremony

Brad & Leann Weiss, Lake Wilderness Lodge, Maple Valley, WA

Saturday, April 21, 2007 photo by: www.weddingphotog.com

A week ago, I had the honor of marrying Brad and Leann at the beautiful Lake Wilderness Lodge in Maple Valley. Within their ceremony, Brad and Leann chose to present surprise roses to Leann's Mother, Jean, and her Aunt Julie.

Creating and delivering a "surprise" of any sort within a wedding ceremony takes sensitivity and care. I occasionally suggest a surprise to a bride or groom and when it comes together, it's usually more poignant and memorable than we both thought it would be.

And a "surprise" can be anything you'd like to make your ceremony uniquely yours and memorable. For instance, in the past I've had:

- A groom get down on one knee and propose to his bride (he did not formally propose) and she was overcome with gratitude and tears.

- A bride flew in a "surprise guest" for her groom - a best buddy from the groom's recent days in Iraq.

- A couple "surprised" the bride's parents with a trip to Poland - a place they have always wanted to go in appreciation for unique help/support given to the couple in the past year.

So, consider a "surprise" in your ceremony. If it "feels right, " in my experience it usually is.

**My thanks to Sean Werner of Werner's Photography for this beautiful picture of Brad & Leann!

The Farm Kitchen: A Wonderful Venue For Your Wedding Celebration..

The Farm Kitchen, Poulsbo, Washington

www.farmkitchen.com

One of my very favorite places for a wedding ceremony and reception/celebration in Kitsap County and Poulsbo, Washington is a wonderful hidden gem: The Farm Kitchen.

Hollis Fay, Anna Joe and their wonderful wedding staff assist a couple in creating a memorable wedding celebration at their unique venue that exudes comfort, warmth and puts out some of the most fabulous food in Kitsap County.

So, if you're seeking to have your wedding celebration in Poulsbo (ferry rides are good!), you must make a personal visit to The Farm Kitchen. Oh, and they also have the most fabulous breakfast on the first Saturday of every month - their cinnamon rolls are to die for!

Isaiah and Mercedes Paradise - March 24, 2007, The Sorrento Hotel

Isaiah and Mercedes Paradise, March 24, 2007

Sorrento Hotel, Seattle, WA
Photo: Photo Elan www.photoelan.com

The Sorrento Hotel is one of my favorite places in Seattle for a small or medium size wedding. And on March 24th, I married Isaish and Mercedes in an intimate and sweet ceremony before 60 of their family and close friends. Jennfer and Brian Hartman from Photo Elan took some amazing photos of Isaiah and Mercedes and you can take a peak at the work of this creative and artistic couple at their blog: www.photoelan.com/blog. Congratulations, Isaiah and Mercedes!

Planning A Very Small & Intimate Wedding Ceremony? If So, Here Are Some Tips To Create A More Beautiful Moment...

On St. Patrick's Day afternoon of this year, I was honored to marry Darren and Julie in a small and intimate ceremony in the Penthouse Suite of The Sorrento Hotel.

Darren and Julie did everything right. We worked together to create a ceremony that fully included their children - one that appropriately recognized the beloved young adults in their lives and at the same time a ceremony that celebrated their unique partnership and bond.

If you are planning a small and intimate wedding ceremony, here are a few tips to consider:

• 1) Consider being married on an "off day." Plan your wedding on a day early in the week - you'll have more choices for a venue and you'll also save money.
• 2) Use your ceremony as a ritual of celebration and joy. Yes, this is true for hopefully all wedding ceremonies. However, with a small gathering, there is more opportunity for personal recognition of all gathered for the moment.
• 3) Enjoy a fabulous meal afterwards. In lieu of a wedding reception or larger party, I married a couple today at The Willows Lodge who took their 15 guests across the street for a marvelous and memorable evening dinner fest at The Herbfarm. So, whether it's brunch or dinner, and in lieu of a larger party, splurge on a fabulous meal and fully enjoy the experience.

My Great Good Fortune: To Be Invited To Officiate Your Wedding Ceremony When You Don't Even Really Know Me!

Beni "The Bride"

Trying Out Wedding Veils For Pure Joy & Fun!

(I am so honored to marry Beni & Rick on September 30th)

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When Benita (aka Beni) sent me this photo of her taken trying out wedding veils, I couldn't help but smile big. You see, Beni's style doesn't include a veil and the look of pure joy and glee on her face is one for the books!

So, this post is really a "thank you" to the wonderful couples who come my way. Couples who trust me and invite me to create and deliver their wedding ceremonies - many times often at a point in the wedding planning process where they still don't know me and are flying on faith.

So, if I could list all of the wonderful engaged couples I'm working with this year, I would...and here is a short list of couples who have said "yes" to a deeply personalized wedding ceremony - "yes" to trusting me with their wedding ceremony - and "yes" to fun, creativity and creating a lasting and life long memory with a thoughtful and poignant wedding ceremony...

Jacquee and Chris; Jessica and Steve; Linnea and Tony; Stephanie and Jon, Kristin and Andy, Mary Ann and Craig; Kathryn and Nick, Andrea and Brandon, Becky and Terren, Amy and Brad, Steven and Lauren, Jeremy and Rhonda, Lisa and Shawn, Becky and John, Kandis and Charles, Amanda and Larry, Suzi and Craig, Steve and Pauline...to you and all of my couples, my deepest thanks and gratitude.

Annemarie

Tips for A Happy and Fun Wedding Rehearsal - Especially When Family and Friends Aren't Fully Listening!

Bride Bethany Rolstad (right) and Wedding Dog Bailey

In my wedding work, wedding rehearsals can be a lot of fun.

And first of all, nobody is fully listening.

On rehearsal day, emotions are all over the map. So to insure a smooth and fun rehearsal - and that everyone remembers the "action parts," here are a few tips to consider:

Give Yourself A Buffer Day - If you are being married on a Saturday, have your rehearsal on Thursday. If you are being married on Sunday, have your rehearsal on Friday. By giving yourselves a day between rehearsal/rehearsal party and the full wedding day, you have more room to breathe, to take care of last minute items and perhaps even take just a few hours away from everyone just for the two of you (imagine that!).

Half-Hour Rule - Tell your wedding party and family/friends that your rehearsal will start at 11:30 a.m. - but you and your Officiant/Minister know it will pretty much start at Noon. By giving yourselves a half-hour buffer, you are allowing for late-comers. And people are often late to rehearsal so as I am very fond of saying, bribes are good!

Action Parts Only - In my rehearsals, I keep the words sacred for the wedding day. My goal when we are rehearsing together is to make everyone comfortable with what, when, how and where - this way everyone involved in your ceremony is more fully present throughout your wonderful ceremony on your wedding day.

Rehearsal Dinner/Party - Schedule your rehearsal dinner/party for family and friends after rehearsal at a location near the actual rehearsal venue. By keeping travel distance down, you will make things easier for people - and traffic is always a consideration for people not famliar with the Puget Sound area.

What Makes Me Crazy? "The Perfect Wedding..."

TED & PALLAS DAME, JUNE, 2006, REDMOND, WA

"A truly fabulous couple!

Okay, I'm going to get on my wedding soapbox for a few minutes.

What makes me crazy? It's how the wedding industry markets "a perfect wedding, "a perfect day."

I've seen a lot of "behind the scenes stuff" at weddings and here is what I know for sure: if you're planning your day as a "perfect wedding," you are setting yourself up for possible disappointment.

In this work that I do, it's the imperfections that create a memorable and sweet wedding day. When I hear back from couples that I have worked with, I often hear about the wonderful details of the day - and I also hear about the "snafus" or the imperfections of the day. And these imperfections are many times woven into the memory of the wedding day with a smile, a grin - even laughter.

Why? Because a wedding is a wedding - and as much as we strive to create moments that are breathtakingly poignant and memorable - a wedding also creates moments that are silly, funny, a tad embarrassing and perhaps even odd.

So, two things to consider on your way to your wedding day: 1) a wedding brings up emotional "stuff." Keep your boundaries and prepare for a day that is joyful and perhaps has a few quirks, too. 2) The sweetness is in the imperfections - a wedding day goes so quickly. During your wedding day, create moments just to be and absorb - it's not so much what is said on this day, it's the "feeling" from the wedding day will be your sweetest memory in years to come.

A Wonderful Wedding Resource - Laurie Sue Brockway's Book, "The Wedding Goddess"

Thad & Kristin's Wedding Day, August 26, 2006, Alderbrook Resort

If you are bride looking for a fabulous "comfort" read on your way to your wedding day, I invite you to purchase a copy of Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway's book, "The Wedding Goddess."

Laurie is a wonderful and contemporary non-denominational Minister on the East Coast and her perspective, strategies and words of grace will sooth your way to your wedding day. You may visit Laurie's website at www.weddinggoddess.com

Handsome Hogi - The Joy & Loss of Caring For An Older Special Needs Dog...

My husband, Greg and I, have lost two of our beloved dogs in the past four weeks. At the beginning of the year, we lost our 16-year-old, Ms. Aimee, and on the last day of January, we lost our sweet Handsome Hogi.

Like Aimee, Handsome Hogi came to us just over a year ago after he was at a shelter for eight months. A special needs gentleman, Hogi came with a boatload of challenges - tumor, bad teeth, an enlarged heart and very bad kneecaps that made it difficult to get around. Oh, and he was also deaf!

And for a year, he was a big light in our lives.

We loved taking care of Hogi. It was a privilege for us to be guardians to a furry one who had suffered so and we hope we made his last year a comfortable and happy one.

Our home doesn't feel the same without Hogi. In this rescue work that I do, I'll never become accustomed to the loss of a dog. Hogi showed the two of us such courage and resolve. He had many challenges and he was ever joyful - every day.

We miss you, Hogi. And we love you dearly.

Annemarie & Greg

Jeff and Julie Barnett - An Intimate & Wonderful Wedding At The Sorrento Hotel

Jeff & Julie Barnett, their Wonderful Two Girls
and Maid of Honor/Best Guy!

When I look at the happy faces in this picture, I remember Jeff and Julie's wonderful wedding ceremony a few months ago.

What I admire about Jeff and Julie is that they wanted their wedding ceremony to be the centerpiece of their wedding day.

And it was on a crisp and beautiful October day last Fall.

Jeff and Julie were married in front of their dearest family and friends - and Jeff's two amazing and beautiful young daughter's - in warm and intimate ceremony in a suite at the Sorrento Hotel.

While the setting was truly beautiful, what struck me was the great joy in the room....a tone set by Jeff and Julie.

Jeff and Julie worked to with me to create a ceremony that celebrated their love story, acknowledged special family/friends and also sweetly and appropriately included Jeff's two young daughters. There is a gentle balance to including children of any age in a ceremony and together we created a ceremony that celebrated their new family and at the same time, honored their own very special and unique love story/partnership.

Jeff and Julie - thank you giving me the opportunity to be with both of you on your wedding day. I wish you great joy in your future together!

Annemarie

What I Know For Sure About Using a "Day Of" Coordinator For Your Wedding...

Because of the uniqueness of my work, I have probably been involved with more wonderful weddings than most Wedding Coordinators or Consultants.

And here is what I know for sure about the possibility of hiring a "day of" coordinator for your wedding day:

- If you are having a wedding with more than 75 guests and you do not have a dedicated friend/family member who oversee all details and activities of the day, seriously consider selecting and hiring a Day Of Wedding Coordinator. This wonderful person can assist you with specific pre-planning details but most importantly, he or she is your "air traffic controller" on the day of your wedding - absorbing all tangible and intangible tasks to insure that as a couple, you don't have to worry or fret about who, what, where, when and why.

I fully recognize this is an extra piece for the budget. And in my personal experience, I would invite you to cut costs in other places that really don't matter as much so you can have more joy and peace of mind on your wedding day - and perhaps before!

Is you would like a referral to a Day Of Coordinator, please email me at anne@annemariejuhlian.com

And a big hello to Gabriel and Jaime Angeles in the picture above! I was so fortunate to marry Gabe and Jaime last May at Thornewood Castle - truly an amazing couple in so many ways!

Annemarie

A Big Tip: The "30 Minute" Start Rule For Your Wedding Ceremony...

Michael & Christi Vacarro, Alderbrook Resort, 2006

Even if we never work together, here is significant wedding ceremony planning tip that will hcreate more ease and elegance around the start of your wedding ceremony.

If your wedding ceremony is to start at 6:00 p.m., put 5:30 pm. on your invites.

If your wedding ceremony is to start at 3:00 p.m., put 2:30 p.m. on your invites.

Why?

By creating a 30-minute buffer around the start time of your ceremony, you are immediately doing a couple of things:

- Since many people aren't personally familiar with wedding venues, they often show up right at the start time of a ceremony or a little late. This creates stress all the way around.

- By creating a 30-minute buffer, people arrive and are greeted in a more relaxed manner - rather than rushing in and finding a seat.

- And most importantly, by creating some wiggle room of time, a bride and groom immediately create a more welcoming environment where everyone is more relaxed. Plus, when you start "on time," this also protects the integrity of your food which in most cases you have spent good money on.

If you have any questions on this, please email me at anne@annemariejuhlian.com

What Our Beloved Dog, Ms. Aimee, Taught My Husband and Me About Love, Courage and Grrrr...."

Ms. Aimee, February 9, 1994 - January 5, 2007

My husband, Greg and I, lost our Aimee 10 days ago.

Beautiful Aimee came to us from neglect and abuse when she was about 2-3 years old. And she lived with us for 13 years.

Aimee was a ferocious little dog. She was a cocker spaniel/lhasa aphso mix and her big job was not only guarding us, but guarding the house. She loved her walks and car rides.

For me, Aimee brought much joy to my life. And she taught me so much about the courage to live, being protective and that several "grrrrrr's" a day are a very good thing.

In the rescue and rehabilitation work that I do with dogs, many animals have passed thru my life. Aimee was supposed to stay for a day or so and move on. That was 13 years ago. She passed peacefuly with grace and dignity after deteriorating from kidney disease and a tumor on her left hip.

I miss you, Aimee. So much.

With love forever,
Annemarie

YOUR WEDDING VOWS - Traditional, Contemporary...Or Very, Very Unique!

Chris & Ponzi, Bellevue Harbor Club, December 9, 2006

There was no better place for me to be on the evening of December 9th but at the Bellevue Harbor Club to officiate Chris and Ponzi's wonderful wedding ceremony.

Not only was this couple lovely to work with but one of their close friends playfully shared with me that this was the "geek wedding of the year!"

And keeping true to their passion for technology, Chris and Ponzi shared their wedding vows from small laptop computer screens - to the laughter and delight of their 200 happy family and friends! And while it made for a very appropriate and fun presentation of the vows, the content of of the wedding vows that Chris and Ponzi shared with each other was indeed very poignant and beautiful.

Here's what I know for sure about creating beautiful wedding vows:

- There is "no right or wrong." I work with couples of all faiths and traditions and encourage my brides and grooms to share vows that "feel" best for them. And there are many ways to do this - some of my couples write their own vows or I often write and create a unique set of personalized vows for my couples.

- Long or short doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how long or short your vows are. What matters is that the content is yours and yours alone and that your vows reflect your genuine intention and commitment to each other and to yourself.

- Vows don't "trend" like other pieces of a wedding. There are so many "trends" within the wedding industry but one piece that rarely trends are the wedding vows. While I have been upfront and personal to some very unique vow presentations (wedding vows by song, wedding vows in a comic voice), my couples tend to lean toward what I call "traditional contemporary," i.e., a unique blend of wedding vows that are familiar/traditional and comfortable - and often with a twist of uniqueness. Yes, it sounds like a cocktail of sorts but I think you have a sense of what I'm talking about! If not, please email me at anne@annemariejuhlian.com with your specific questions and let's chat.

Mementos - Creating a Living Legacy Of Your Wedding Day

In this wedding work that I do, I love to work with a couple to create a living memento - a living legacy - of the wedding day.

At Thad and Kristen's fabulous wedding at Alderbrook Resort on August 26, 2006, I orchestrated a group photo immediately after our ceremony was over.

Thad and Kristen led the procession out of the ceremony area to a grassy area where wedding photographer Marie Clare took a group photo from a second story balcony and voila! A fabulous memento of Thad and Kristen's wedding day - and this reduced size doesn't do the photo full justice!

As you plan your wedding ceremony and day, consider ways to create mementos of the day - whether it may be a special group photo, planting a seedling and watching it grow as you move into your married life together or perhaps the handprints of all of your guests on the border of a frame...or several frames. I saw a series of framed wedding prints with the hand prints of all guests at Justin and Terri's Kramer's home (married June 18, 2006) just last week and I was amazed at this contemporary and creative approach this couple put into showcasing their wedding day thru unique framed mattes and photos.

Each couple that I work with is very unique. In this very personalized work that I do, I encourage you to consider unique ideas that will create a memento(s) for years to come!

Scott and Chaz - A Magnificent Wedding at Lakewold Gardens

Sometimes in this work that I do, I hate to admit it but I have so much fun during a wedding ceremony. It's probably not the politically correct thing to admit but when I think of Scott and Chaz's wedding at Lakewold Gardens, a smile breaks across my face.

Some couples are purely festive. Some couples are more traditional. Some couples are simple and easy. Some couples are a mix of everything.

With Scott and Chaz, there was so much joy and laughter during their wedding ceremony. I can't exactly put my finger on it, but this beautiful photo by one of Seattle's best photographers, Michael Rosenberg, captures this couple's essence.

As my 2006 wedding season winds down, I find myself reflecting on the weddings of past years. Many come to mind. And when I pass a certain exit on I-5 near Lakewood, I often think of Scott and Chaz and know that the joy and authenticity they brought to their wedding is serving them well in their married life.

Storm and Ann, Kiana Lodge, July 30, 2006 - Some Wedding Photos Are Just Fabulous!

Every so often, I receive a picture from one of my couples that just oozes joy. And just yesterday, I received this fabulous photo from Storm and Ann - a wonderful couple that I was honored to marry on July 30th at Kiana Lodge in Poulsbo, WA.

And as I wrap-up this very full wedding season of 2006, I'd like to say "thank you" to some of the most creative and amazing wedding photographers that I have had the privilege of working with this season:

Kurt Smith http://kurtsmithphotography.com The photo above of Storm and Ann was taken by Kurt Smith at Kiana Lodge on July 30th of this year. In Ann's words: "we had a wonderful time working with Kurt and he did a fabulous job!" I fully agree!

Cory Parris http://coryparris.com
Cory not only has great style and a fabulous smile, but he took a picture of me this wedding season that uniquely captured my joy in doing this work. Couples love Cory!

Sean Werner http://weddingphotog.com
Sean has a very outgoing personality and his pictures truly amplify what goes on behind and in front of the scene at a wedding.

Anne Herman http://anneherman.com I was with Anne at a very emotional wedding in August and was struck by her great sensitivity and heart.

Paul Dudley http://pauldudleyphotography.com You gotta just love Paul! On the hottest of days - under the most stressful or joyful of circumstances - Paul is just a breath of fresh wedding air!

Clare Marie http://claremariephotography.com I worked with Clare three times this year and shared dinner with her at one. Clare is always watching for those best shots and opportunities - and she has a lightheartedness to her that is very refreshing.

Jan Domek http://imagesbyjan.net I remember working with Jan at an August wedding this year - both of us were almost keeling under the intense afternoon heart. Talk about a classy lady - she might be sweating and she's all over a wedding with that camera of hers!

Chris Sollart http://chrissollart.com It was a colder and rainy day when I worked with Chris and his partner at a wedding at The Willows Lodge. Chris's work is fabulous and he's very easy to work with on the wedding day.

And to all of the many other wedding photographers that I worked with this season - thank you. Wedding photography is a tough job - it's a job that you "can't do over." We are so fortunate to have so many amazing photo professionals who truly care about their couples and their work.

A Fabulous Venue For Your Wedding Ceremony - Bastyr Chapel at Bastyr University

One of my favorite places on the planet for a beautiful and memorable wedding ceremony is Bastyr Chapel at Bastyr University in Kirkland, WA.

I have had the pleasure of officiating several weddings this year at Bastyr Chapel and the picture at the right features Josh and Jessica at their wedding ceremony on June 10, 2006.

There is so much that I love about Bastyr Chapel:

- The acoustics are terrific and the built-in sound system is one of the best around.

- It's such an ornamental venue for a traditional wedding ceremony and one that envelopes you in ritual - and it's an appropriate chapel for couples of all diverse traditions and backgrounds.

- The chapel and venue is drop-dead gorgeous. It's one of the few venues around where a couple of any denomination can reserve the space and have the wedding ceremony of their dreams.

So, if you're seeking a beautiful, reflective and charming venue for your wedding ceremony, consider Bastyr Chapel. It's one of the best indoor venues in the Northwest for a wedding ceremony - traditional or not!

What My Dog Taipooh Teaches Me About Love

Okay, so now you're thinking, "What is this woman doing writing about her dog when she should be writing about love, weddings and whatnot?!"

Meet Taipooh. He came to me as "Peanut," rescued off the streets of Taipei, Taiwan in 2000 - a country which is a hell hole for companion animals. I rescued Taipooh just after my beloved cocker spaniel, Ms. Pooh, passed away. I named this goofy guy from Taipei, "Taipooh," in honor of his heritage and Ms. Pooh.

Taipooh is a nut. Because of his severe neglect in Taiwan, he has weathered two bouts of mange, has overcome heartworm, has epilepsy and infrequent seizures and is going blind. And he is so full of joy. Oh, and I forgot to tell you his tongue is too long for his mouth and always stick out - talk about goofy!

What I'd like you to know about me is that a huge part of my life is evolves around animal rescue. My husband Greg and I live on Bainbridge Island and we have four special needs dogs all rescued from severe abuse/neglect. When I am not working with couples and on my wedding work, Greg and I are often involved in rescuing and rehabilitating dogs from the worst of situations - many like Taipooh.

So, in this wedding work that I do, I frequently have a dog sitting under my desk as I write a ceremony. On occasion, on a wedding day, I attend to an animal rescue (I have lots of clothing changes in my car!). And while this wonderful wedding work that I do makes me very happy, the joy I feel from releasing an animal from pain and suffering is unmatched.

Thank you for indulging me. I was going to write about wedding vows but took a look at Taipooh sleeping in his bed near my desk and said, "what the heck!"

Annemarie - Wedding Officiant and Animal Lover

What Smiles and Elegant Laughter Tell Me About A Couple During Their Wedding Ceremony...

With great delight, I was honored to officiate Jim and Erika Heesacker's afternoon wedding ceremony on Saturday, August 19th of this year.

And what a smile Jim had on his face during their wedding ceremony! His face was lit up with joy and from time to time, a huge grin would just cross his face. Erika was also absolutely delightful and elegant during their wedding ceremony.

What I love about Jim and Erika is not only their passion and commitment to each other and how far they have both come in life to be together, but their absolute joy and appreciation for the wedding ceremony moment, how they took care of their family and friends before/after the ceremony and Jim's big smiles and Erika's grace.

Creating a Magical and Unique Wedding Ceremony with Traditional OR Untraditional Music Selections!

Jason and Angela Showve - When I think of this wonderful couple that I married on July 29th at Windmill Gardens, a silly and goofy smile crosses my face. What made Jason and Angela's wedding ceremony so authentic and memorable is that together, we worked to create "defining moments" within their wedding ceremony - including a processional of music I won't soon forget.

Imagine this:

- The parents process down the aisle to the music selection, "Bad to the Bone," and the groom's father does a little jig down the aisle!

- The groom then walks solo, accompanied by the theme song from WWF - the Worldwide Wrestling Federation. Jason is a big and handsome guy and when he entered, family and friends could not contain their joy and laughter.

- The ladies in the wedding party walked down to a pretty and mello musical selection - a nice change and perfect.

- And the bride, Angela, was elegant as she entered and processed in with her parents to a selection from Enya.

There were other moments, but for me, the music set the tone for this very joyful and fun couple.

Ted and Pallas Dame - Why My Work As A Wedding Officiant Is So Very Rewarding...and what they helped me remember...

On June 24th, I had the honor of marrying Pallas Reichman and Ted Dame, at their home on English Hill in Redmond. For me, having the opportunity to be with Ted and Pallas was a special treat - this is a couple who brought a deeply moving and purposeful love story to their wedding day and were an absolute delight to work with as together we created and crafted their wedding ceremony.

On the evening of June 24th, family and friends gathered and to top things off, this was quite the "Microsoft and Tech crowd," which turned out to be a most lively and appreciative audience for Ted and Pallas as they wed.

Yes, the sun was hot. The wedding coordinator was running around doing her thing beautifully. And pre-wedding ceremony refreshments were being served to cool guests off. But to my delight, this couple helped me remember a few important things in this work that I do:

- That joy is one of the greatest pieces of a wedding ceremony and when included and delivered elegantly, it makes a wedding ceremony.

- That true love "beams" on the faces of a couple - and Ted and Pallas were literally beaming during their wedding ceremony.

I am deeply grateful to Ted and Pallas for giving me the opportunity to be with them on their wedding day. They trusted me with their wedding ceremony and they gifted me with one of the more festive wedding ceremonies of my summer season!

Your Wedding Vows - Make Them Your Own, Modify Vows You've Found or Go Traditional - It's Your Choice...

In my work as a Wedding Officiant, I work directly with couples to create sets of vows that are deeply personalized and meaningful.

And of course, just like anything else, I are drawn to some wedding vows more than others.

Here is a beautiful set of wedding vows authored by one of my most favorite people on the planet, Marianne Williamson. I offer this set of ring vows to you from Marianne who has a talent for crafting words into art:

________, With this ring,
I give you my promise that from this day forward,
you shall not walk alone.
May my heart be your shelter
And my arms by your home.
May God bless you always.
May we walk together through all things.
May you feel deeply loved, for indeed you are.
May you always see your innocence in my eyes.
With this ring,
I give you my heart.
I have no greater gift to give.
I feel so honored to call you my wife/husband.
I feel so blessed to call you mine.
May we feel this joy forever.
I thank you and I love you.

#1 Tip for Planning Your Wedding Rehearsal and Wedding Weekend

Steven and Patrice - May, 2006. What is the best thing a couple can do to insure an elegant and graceful wedding day? Particularly if the wedding is large and with "lots of details?"

If possible, considering scheduling your wedding rehearsal so that you have a day or two between the rehearsal and the wedding day. Why?

I often see a more relaxed couple if they have a day or so between their rehearal and wedding day.

Scheduling your rehearsal and wedding back-to-back - i.e., Friday and Saturday - is often very stressful and leaves little time for last-minute details and just enjoying family and friends. With a "buffer day," a couple may be able to find a little private time for a few hours or better entertain out-of-town guests.

Either way, as you plan your wedding weekend, consider this planning tip. I see many couples over the course of a year and this is one of my best pieces of advise to the couples I am so very honored to work with.

Creating A Unique and Memorable Wedding Ceremony When Children Are Involved...

So many times each year, I am delighted to work with couples to create a wedding ceremony that also incorporates their young children, teen-agers or adult children. The picture above was taken last year during Adam and Marcy Kispert's wedding ceremony with their daughter in Suquamish. I absolutely loved this couple and their very obvious commitment and devotion to this young child. During the ceremony, honoring words were shared with the young girl and a gift was presented - a memento of "their wedding day." If you are planning a wedding ceremony with children, here are a few important tips to consider:

1) A wedding ceremony is not only about the two of you. It's also about the "tribe" of people who love and appreciate you. Honoring words of gratitude and appreciation to family members and children are often a highlight of a wedding ceremony - and when written and delivered with eloquence and heart, they help create a bridge to the future.

2) Surprise gifts are often a wonderful element to a wedding ceremony. Get creative - one of my most artists for a reasonably priced gift is Caitlin Dundon here in Seattle and her website is: www.oneheartstudio.com

3) Consider rituals during your wedding ceremony which include your children - these can include: vows to your children; re-planting a tree seedling for your home; unity candle; sand ceremony and so much more. Each ritual is about strength and harmony and celebrating the formal creation of a new family. If you'd like specific information on one of these rituals, please let me know.

Cocker Spaniels Clarence and Claire - What They Can Teach Us About Love, Perseverance and Devotion

Weeks ago, my small animal rescue network rescued Clarence and Claire, two cocker spaniels who had been chained up in a backyard for TEN years in Eastern Washington. After much negotiation, these dogs were finally released from their horrible living situation and came to us. As brother and sister, Clarence and Claire had been living in a tiny and confined space for their entire lives. And despite their adversity and hardship, they are thriving in their foster home on Vashon Island, waiting to be adopted together to a loving and forever home.

As I look at Clarence and Claire, I see great perseverance and devotion. They absolutely adore one another and despite what they have been through, they shine with joy and courage.

On occasion, I have the honor of marrying a couple who has been together through challenge and adversity. Much like the couple I married unexpectedly last week here at a park on Bainbridge Island because orders just came through for the groom to ship to Iraq. Or perhaps the wonderful groom who just lost his beloved father a week before his April wedding ceremony to his Sweetheart - and was wearing his heart on his sleeve on his wedding day in more ways than one.

Yes, a wedding is joyful and lovely. And it is fraught with what we call "life." I am so honored to be a part of facilitating a ritual that is hopeful, celebratory and joyful - much like Clarence and Claire.

Roy & Karen - An Inspiring Couple and Their Beautiful Wedding Ceremony & Celebration - April 22, 2006, Bacon Mansion, Seattle

Roy & Karen. Every once in awhile, I just fall in love with one of my couples. And such is the case with Roy and Karen. I can't tell you exactly why. Perhaps it's because their mid-life love story is over-the-moon inspiring and a true testament to weathering life's ups and downs. Perhaps it's their very affectionate and considerate nature and how they treated everyone at their wedding such such love and respect. Or perhaps it's their infectious enthusiasm for life and their devotion for one another. Whatever the case, Roy and Karen lit up the Bacon Mansion on April 22nd with their love story and I feel just grateful to have been a part of their day.

Ryan & Lisa - A Fabulous Couple Who Forgot (yes, forgot!) Their Marriage License On Their Wedding Day!

I knew when I first met Ryan and Lisa that they were going to be one of my most memorable couples of last year and they didn't let me down. In addition to having one of the best "how we met stories," my dynamic duo forget their marriage license! Yes, forgot! I arrived at their wedding ceremony in Snohomish only to find that Lisa had left behind a piece of their marriage paperwork and I couldn't marry them with out. Thankfully, the wedding was at a private home and while their Best Man zoomed back to Lynnwood at record speed to get the needed documents, family and friends waited in anticipation.

Finally, our wedding start about an hour-and-a-half late - and a beautiful wedding it was. So, for me, the lesson learned is to request all of my couples to bring their marriage license to a rehearsal (if they have one) or to check in with the couple on the "day of" if there isn't a rehearsal. And Ryan and Lisa - you made me a promise to "have me back!" Take me up on it! Your Grateful Officiant and Friend, Annemarie.

Gabriel and Jaime Angeles, Married at Thornewood Castle, May 27, 2006

There is so much that I absolutely love about my work. Mostly, I am so incredibly honored to be with couples during one of the most intimate momenets of their lives. Over Memorial Day Weekend, I was privileged to marry Gabriel and Jaime at a beautiful afternoon wedding ceremony at Thornewood Castle in Lakewood, Washington.

Gabriel and Jaime's wedding was particularly moving for me. You could actually feel the love and respect that this couple shared and I was very taken with way that this couple interacted with each other. The stress of a wedding day often takes it's toll on a couple. Gabriel and Jaime were peaceful, confident and so very charming.

Weather was a worry all day. However, clouds cleared at the last moment and the sun actually peaked thru during Gabriel and Jaime's outdoor wedding ceremony - delighting everyone who was there to share this couple's day. Aloha, Gabriel and Jaime!

Sean Werner - One of the Northwest's Finest Wedding Photographers...fun, caring and creative.

Every once in a while, I run into a "wedding vendor" who just snaps my radish. I met Wedding Photographer Sean Werner at a wedding in Des Moines last September. What I immediately admired about Sean was his unique ability to put his bride and groom at ease and his great sense of personality and humor. Being a wedding photographer is a tough job. It's a "can't do over" kind of job. Sean brings to his job a joy for for his art, a very kind heart and a great sense of style.

This wonderful photo was taken by Sean on May 20th at The Salish Lodge where we celebrated the marriage of Cory and Teri Everhardt - a wonderful couple with a most beautiful love story and very deep bond of love and trust.

If you're looking for a great wedding photographer, I invite you to contact Sean at 253.307.4501 or send him an email at weddingphotog1@hotmail.com. If you want to check out his work, please go to: www.weddingphotog.com

Woof! More on Bailey the "Wedding Dog"

I got a phone call this week from a reporter at MSNBC who is doing a story on "wedding dogs." Of course, the animal lover in me was all over this possibility to share that more and more couples are choosing to have their beloved furry friend(s) in their wedding ceremony.

I love this picture of Bethany and wedding dog, Bailey. Bethany married her Sweetheart, Josh, in August of last year in Arlington and Bailey was a hit during the ceremony and lapped up all sorts of attention during the reception. If you are getting married and would like to include your dog in your wedding ceremony, please contact me with any specific questions.

I encourage creativity in a wedding ceremony - whether traditional or contemporary, big or small, casual or formal. Your wedding ceremony is a tribute to your love story - celebrate it!

Taiya & Bruce - A Class Act!

I have this thing. Okay, I have this big thing! I truly believe there is a sweet synchronicity to the universe. That is, a wedding day is a true defining moment and if I am to truly be with a couple during one of the most intimate moments of their lives, I will be. And what is also true as carefully you select an Officiant, I also select you. In this work that I do, I work with couples from all backgrounds and all walks of life. About a year-a-half ago, I married Bruce and Taiya at the Grand Hyatt Hotel in downtown Seattle. What I treasured about this couple was their elegance, class and how deeply they cared for each other. What I also remember about Bruce and Taiya's wedding was how happy people were for the two of them. At a wedding, there is all sorts of "stuff" flying around the room. At this wedding, it was all about the love!

Petals! Petals! The Joy of the Flower Girl...

In a more traditional or formal wedding ceremony, a flower girl frequently precedes the bride and her escort down the aisle. I get a kick out of flower girls - whether they be a baby in the arms of a Mom or Dad, a toddler who barely makes it down the aisle or a pre-teen who is over-the-top proud to be part of the festivities.

If you are having a flower girl in your wedding here are a few tips from this Officiant who sees things from a different perspective:

1) Freezing up. The younger the flower girl, the more chance there is that she may freeze up half-way down the aisle. If a flower girl is very young, I often place several adults in the aisle and they help the flower girl along. Or if needed, I walk down the aisle and escort the petal throwing young lady to her place.

2) Not Enough Petals. Make sure that the petal basket is large enough and has lots of petals. You'd be surprised how often I see a flower girl run out of petals before she is half-way down the aisle!

3) Smile! Please tell your flower girl to smile, make contact with certain people and enjoy the walk.

Petal on!

Dawn and Mike...A Wonderful Couple From Two Years Ago...

For every Officiant, there are certain couples that tremendously touch your heart. Two years ago, I had the privilege of working with Dawn and Mike who were married at the Cedarbrook center in August. While I believe that an Officiant and couple "choose each other," I got extra lucky here. Not only did Dawn and Mike want a deeply personalized wedding ceremony that celebrated their love story - but they had an elegance to them that just oozed a great love story. Here's to you, Dawn and Mike. Happy almost 2nd anniversary! Your Grateful Officiant, Annemarie

Selecting a Wedding Officiant...it's a weird and often wacky process...

Okay, I said it. Weird and wacky. Perhaps sometimes. Perhaps more than often. As a Wedding Officiant, I am hugely respectful of the process that a couple goes through to select their Officiant. Choosing a Wedding Officiant is often not that much fun. First of all, you've got to call/meet with an Officiant that you don't know to potentially invite him or her into one of the most intimate moments of your lives. In addition, you're giving this person control of your wedding ceremony. Yikes!

And here is what I know for sure in my years as a non-denominational Wedding Officiant:

1) Be very, very clear about what you want from your Officiant. Ask lots of questions. Yes, this process can be somewhat daunting and you can make it fun. Qualify your Officiant via email or phone and if they resonate with you, set up a meeting for coffee/tea, etc.

2) Selecting your Officiant is often a hugely personal choice and one from the gut. Bottom line: You like the Officiant. And the Officiant likes you.

3) You get what you pay for. Really. Truly. No kidding. When it comes to "wedding vendors," you want an Officiant who is excited to know you, honored to create a wedding ceremony with you and privileged to deliver your ceremony on your wedding day. I find that most couples spend money where their values are - and there is no right or wrong here.

Your Wedding Vows - traditional, contemporary, funky/fun - whatever you like!

When it comes to wedding vows, anything goes. Whether you are religious, spiritual or secular, your wedding vows can be anything you wish. Here is a wonderful website for wedding vow ideas: http://www.myweddingvows.com. If you have specific questions about wedding vows, please drop me or a line or call me at 425 922 1325. And if you have a wonderful set of vows that you'd like to share, pass them on and I'll post them!