Seafair Weekend and "Wedding Mania!" - Plan and Be Extra Ready For This Weekend!

Happy One Year Anniversary to Andy and Kristen!

Sumner, Washington

If you are getting married this coming weekend in Seattle, I invite you to be "Seafair aware!"

The bridges will be closed mid-day starting Thursday thru Sunday which can create chaos with some wedding guests who don't plan on this - and end up arriving late. This can also include key members of the wedding party and immediate family.

So, if you're attending a wedding or it's your wonderful wedding, put out a "Wedding 911" to "get across the bridge in time!"

Bring On Those Cute and Remarkable "Ring Bearers" and "Petal Girls"...

Congratulations to Nora and Moe and their beautiful family!

June, 2008 - Tacoma, Washington

Within a wedding ceremony, children bring such joy.

Whether it's walking down an aisle and going the wrong way, sitting down in the middle of the aisle for a "moment" or perhaps freezing up in the middle of throwing rose petals, at a wedding it is all good!

Children love weddings. They love the feeling of having a "big job" on a "big day." And children guarantee that a wedding ceremony will often be unpredictable or imperfect. In this work that I love so much (and I see so much), I admire couples for giving little ones a big moment to shine. So, give children important things to do within a processional or ceremony and let the joy and smiles just unfold.

The Big Question: After The Ceremony is Over, "Then What?"

John and Rebecca, Kiana Lodge, Poulsbo

"A Few Moments Alone After The Ceremony"

I'm not a big fan of wedding receiving lines. This goes for casual or formal weddings, small or large guest lists. I'm also not a big fan of having a couple immediately greet family and friends immediately after their ceremony.

Why?

A wedding ceremony is a vulnerable and emotional life experience. I encourage each of my couples to take a few moments of private time - whether it's a few minutes or 15-20 minutes - to just "be" together. Most of my couples take advantage of this and use the time to be alone, put their feet up, take a walk or just snuggle and take in the first moments of "Gosh, we are really married!"

This also gives your family and friends a few minutes to get up, get something to drink and mix and mingle a bit. A wedding day goes so fast - capture and create "defining moments" and allow your post ceremony "quiet time" to be one of them.

Planning A Small and Intimate Wedding Ceremony? My Three Top Tips For A Memorable Experience...

Congratulations to David & Lisa!

"On their wonderful wedding day, West Seattle..."

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My husband, Greg and I, were married five years ago this week in a small ceremony in our backyard with two couples we love and our Officiant - oh yes, and our four dogs! A party and honeymoon cruise followed but when we look back on our ceremony, we have such wonderful memories - for us, it was perfect.

And having done this wonderful work now with many couples of different wants/needs, I offer you three of my favorite "top tips" for a marvelous and memorable "small ceremony experience."

1. 2-25 family/friends is a perfect "guest count" for a small wedding experience. Create a personalized wedding ceremony and involve each of your guests for an 'inclusive' and loving experience.

2. Enjoy a dinner or evening out immediately afterwards with your family and friends at a venue that can easily take care of all celebration details - i.e., Palisade Restaurant, The Space Needle, The Woodmark Hotel, the Herbfarm, etc. Taking your celebration to a restaurant or fancy hotel/resort takes any stress off of planning a celebration at a private residence - many less details to worry about!

3. Enjoy and take (don't put it off) a marvelous honeymoon - whether it is staying local for a few days or perhaps a cruise to Alaska (so easy from the Seattle waterfront!). We took our first cruise as our honeymoon and are taking our sixth cruise this Winter - it's become one of our favorite indulgences and brings back those "first married memories" every time.

Okay, What's With the "Traditional Guest Book?"

Congratulations to Al and Laurene Stappenbeck!

June 7, 2008, Cedarbrook Center

photo courtesy of Brian & Jennifer Hartman www.photoelan.com

Truth? I've been to many weddings.

And if I may be bold on this sunny Monday morning as I think about what works and what doesn't work at a wedding, I offer this thought: what is with the guest book?

All couples know who is attending their wedding so having guests sign their names seems to me to be a bit redundant. Not only does this often create an unwelcoming "long line" as guests arrive at your wedding, it doesn't offer a very elegant initial experience.

If you're thinking about a guest book, consider "nixing it" and going with something that may be ultimately more meaningful to you:

- a framed photo mat for personal written messages.

- a wishing tree for special notes to be opened on your first anniversary.

- a special welcoming drink with a fortune attached.

A guest book is a traditional piece to a wedding - think about what you truly want your guests to experience when they arrive at your ceremony and take it from there!

Invest with Confidence: A "Day Of" Wedding Coordinator Is Money Well Spent...

Luke and Amanda, DeLille Cellars, Woodinville, WA
"A Wonderful Early Summer Weekday Wedding"

In this marvelous work that I do, I work with a number of exceptional and highly respected Wedding Planners and Consultants. If you want to fully enjoy your day without worrying about details (small and big), consider hiring a Day Of Coordinator.

Yes, slice money from the favors and the flowers - go a bit "lighter" on the wedding cake and take the extra cash and put it toward somebody who can assist you with making your day extra wonderful.

This past weekend, I worked with Stephanie Wilson of Every Last Detail - www.eldweddings.net. Stephanie is a marvelous Wedding Planner and Consultant and like some of her peers, she works with weddings of all sizes and budgets. Take a peak at Stephanie's website for more information.

FAQ - "How Long Is A Wedding Ceremony?"

Congratulations to Randy and Megan Loctor!

Tacoma Museum of Glass 5.24.08

photo by: the marvelous Cheryl Jones www.inaframe.com

One of my frequent questions from a couple is simple and upfront: "How long is a wedding ceremony?"

Yes, the length of a ceremony is important. If it's too short, it feels "weird." And if it's too long, it can make a couple feel vulnerable and uncomfortable.

For me, length is about "how a ceremony" feels - not only to the couple but to family and friends. If a ceremony is well-written and well crafted, it will go by very quickly. You know that feeling you get when you're seeing a really good movie and you can't believe it's over? That kind of feeling.

And to answer this question: ceremony length depends on the specific couple as every situation is unique. And most often for me, a wedding ceremony ranges from 18-28 minutes in length.

Wonderful Resource For Readings, Verse & Poetry

Luke & Amanda, Delille Cellars, Woodinville WA

"leaving their wedding ceremony"

If you are looking for a tiny book full of poignant, unique and memorable readings/verse and poetry, find: "The Language of Marriage" by Gary Morris, Blue Mountain Arts.

"The arithmetic of love is unique:

two halves do not make a whole,

only two wholes make a whole."

- Jo Coudert

An Invisible Act of Courage and Resolve...

Marcus and Lana Steele, April, 2008

Bastyr Chapel, Kenmore, Washington

Fabulous Photo: www.aprilgreer.com

Tonight, I got an unexpected email from a favorite couple of mine: they are cancelling their July wedding ceremony and celebration. And my heart is with this couple as they both make their way through this week of "cancelling this" and "cancelling that."

And here is what I hold as true: nobody knows what truly goes on within a loving relationship except the two people involved. To cancel is to step up and take a courageous stand - it's a powerful choice that, while exceedingly difficult and heart-breaking, is a visible and invisible act of courage.

2008 "What In The World" Is Going On In The World Of Weddings?

Bernie & Coleen Brazeau

Friday, April 18, 2008, Port Gamble Church

Photo by Brad Camp: www.bradcampimages.com

Interested in a few wedding facts?

- The average US bride got engaged at age 26 and the average groom at 28.

- What type of wedding are you planning? Traditional still tops the list at 51% with 19% of couples going casual, 13% going formal, and only 2% of couples planning an extravagant wedding.

- How are you getting your wedding planning information? If you are like most people (84% to be exact), you depend on Internet sources for planning or go to friends and family for help (86%).

- Getting married in a church or other religious institution? Well 49% of couples are following in your footsteps.

- The average number of guests at a wedding is 166. Personally, this number surprises me as most weddings I officiate in Seattle range from 75-100 people.

- If you are getting married in the summer and are having a difficult time securing your favorite vendors, this may be the reason why. The majority of weddings takes place from June through August with August hitting a high of 233,413 weddings!

- Probably the wedding fact that most couples are curious about is how much money other couples are spending on their wedding. With costs skyrocketing by almost a thousand dollars every year, see how your budget fits in. In the United States, total spending on a wedding in 2008 is…(drum roll please!) $28,800!

Three Important Things A Wedding Officiant May Tell You That Aren't Necessarily True...

The Wonderful Tim and Karen Grimm

March 29, 2008, Monte Villa Farmhouse, Bothell, WA

photo: www.chrissollart.com

In this work that I do, I attempt to be as transparent as possible. It's not every day that a couple "shops around" for an Officiant and selecting someone to share in a very vulnerable and intimate moment is a "big deal," if I may be so blunt and bold.

So, here are three things that you may hear from an Officiant - and if you do, I beg to differ:

"Trust me/I promise, I have a back-up." Right - on some of the fullest/busiest wedding days of the wedding season, if an Officiant has a crisis and can't be at your wedding, you may have a big challenge. I have been very fortunate and have been at every wedding of mine for the past six years. And one day, if I do this work long enough, I know there is going to be a problem. On many of the less busy days, an Officiant most often will have a back-up. On those very popular Fri/Sat and Sun times during the summer, this is much less so. I have a few additional strategies that I share with my couples that work and bring comfort.

"No paperwork needed." Get an agreement with your Officiant in writing. If an Officiant doesn't offer you a signed agreement, look elsewhere. Professionalism is key here and you want peace of mind that you are fully contracted for your date/time.

"No, no microphone needed." If you are having more than 50 guests, please consider using a microphone or similar amplification system, especially if you are outdoors. Often, beyond the fourth row or so, people can't hear as well and there is nothing that is more disappointing than attending a ceremony and not fully enjoying the words/rituals/moments.

The Washington Arboretum For Your Small And Intimate Wedding Ceremony

I love the smile on your face, Erin!

FAV REVIEW: The Washington Arboretum is one of my favorite places in Seattle for a small and intimate wedding ceremony. There are several locations throughout the park that are beautifully suited for a wedding ceremony, whether you're off season or during the gorgeous summer months. Take a peak at: http://depts.washington.edu/wpa/ - the picture above was taken at one of my favorite ponds at the Arboretum on a deck over looking the water and lily pads!

ABSOLUTELY! Consider Having Your Dog(s) As Part Of Your Wedding Ceremony & Day!

I am now writing Dean and Karen's wedding ceremony for their big day at Kiana Lodge and found this wonderful photo attached to their completed ceremony homework.
Meet the "Ring Bearers!"

I absolutely love it when a couple involves their beloved dogs in a wedding ceremony. Dogs and children bring such joy to a ceremony - no matter what happens, little people and "children in fur" often bring laughter and levity to a ceremony - and help create a few more defining moments for the day!

What I Know For Sure: A Wedding Ceremony Brings Up "Stuff" - Really!

Brandon & Andrea's Wedding Ceremony, 2007

Snoqualmie Golf & Country Club

What do I know for sure? As I get older, perhaps less and less.

And having done this work now for six years, I offer you this learned wisdom after working with many couples to create and deliver a wedding ceremony - short and sweet or custom and involved.

- A wedding is a ritual of transition. "Stuff" comes up during an engagement to be attended to. Listen, have authentic and real conversations - use your engagement time to go deeper with your Sweetheart. Try not to dampen feelings or "stuff coming up" with wedding planning or by staying busy.

- Not only does "stuff" come up for you, it comes up for your "tribe," i.e., people around you. As one of my brides shared with me yesterday, "My fiancee's Mother doesn't realize it's not all about her!" Recognize "projection" for what it is and be clear with your boundaries.

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Most of all, I know a few things: how grateful I am for this work, how much I love and appreciate my husband and our family of dogs and how honored I am to work with a couple and share in their wedding day. Onward we go!

"OFF SEASON" WEDDINGS - SAVE MONEY, MORE CHOICES....CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITY!

It's really interesting.

My full wedding season now officially runs from the beginning of February thru Thanksgiving.

If you are a couple and have yet to select a venue and/or date, consider an off season wedding, i.e, November - February.

Not only will you get more choices for a venue and vendors, you'll enjoy better prices.

Yes, summer weddings are most popular. And if you have flexibility, go "off season" and take your savings and enjoy an extra special honeymoon or a big ticket purchase for your new life together!

COCKER SPANIEL "HONEY BEAR" - JUST LOOK AT THIS FACE!

The Story of "Honey Bear"

Rescued from a hell hole in January.

Adopted to a loving home in February.

A big part of my life is dog rescue and rehabilitation and I've been doing this work in Seattle for more than 15 years. My husband, Greg and I, have four dogs at our home/property on Bainbridge Island - and during the past couple of years, we have taken care of special needs dogs who have spent the their last months with us.

I was part of a team that rescued "Honey Bear" in January. We found her living in filth and neglect in a shed with a heat lamp. After getting her urgent veterinary care and grooming, we discovered the sweetest little cocker girl underneath all of her filth and mats. She was fostered by a loving couple for several weeks and adopted by a lovely woman named Amy. Amy and Honey Bear are living together in Port Orchard and best of all, Honey Bear goes to work every day with Amy and the two are practically joined at the hip!

So, on this chilly March evening as I am working to find a foster home for another rescued dog - I offer you Honey Bear's picture and story for no other reason than to share the joy I feel when a dog is released from suffering and is insured of love and kindness for the rest of it's life. Woof!

Get Creative! Seating For Your Ceremony - What About A Ceremony In The Round?

How Wonderful! Cheers to Todd & Andrea Calhoun

February 16, 2008, Court In the Square, Seatttle, WA

This amazing photo is the beautiful work of Seattle Wedding Photographer Kurt Smith www.kurtsmithphotography.com

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Todd and Andrea wanted something very special for their wedding ceremony "seating" - they chose to have their family and friends stand around them in a circle of support and community. And their ceremony on February 16th was beautiful, poignant with sweet moments of tenderness and laughter.

Traditional seating for a wedding ceremony is often the choice for most couples. And on occasion, a bride and groom will consider an alternative that reflects their individual style and personality. So, as you plan your ceremony, consider alternatives for traditional seating - especially if the indoor venue or outdoor space is a backdrop for something particuarly unique and different.

The Case For Or Against A Traditional Aisle Runner For A Wedding Ceremony...

Thom & Susie Cosgrove DAR House, 2007...Living happily in their new State of Maine!"

I was at a wedding last night for a most wonderful couple and if the bride/groom had indeed put down the aisle runner as intended, I'm quite certain one or more of the wedding party would have slipped or stumbled.

You see, aisle runners can be "dangerous." Yes, truly. If you put an aisle runner on a slippery surface or grassy surface without proper taping or another method of securing the runner, people go flying.

So, if you're thinking about an aisle runner and you absolutely must have one (as you can tell, I'm not a big fan), make sure your runner is going on a safe/proper surface and is well secured.

Sending Love, Prayers and Healing Wishes To My New Best Friend in Idaho...

Larry & Amanda Brothers, Compassion Advocates Extraordinaire!

Summer, 2007, Columbia Winery, Woodinville, WA

MY NEW BEST FRIEND IN IDAHO....

And in getting to know one of my couples for their upcoming July wedding, I have made a "new best friend" in Idaho. She is the Mother of one of my brides and was just recently diagnosed with stomach cancer. In this work that I do, everything is intimate - getting to know a couple, reflecting back a love story, taking care of family and friends during the emotional journey of all that is a wedding ceremony.

And for this year, I am holding my "new best friend" in Idaho in my thoughts and prayers as she takes on personal challenges - physically, emotionally and mentally.

And here is what I know for sure: I will be giving my "new best friend" in Idaho a great big hug on the afternoon of her daughter's wedding rehearsal on July 17th - and in the meantime, I invite you - a wonderful reader of this blog - to fly under the radar with me and anonymously adopt my "new best friend" in Idaho this year - sending her your prayer and best wishes. It's amazing what flying under the radar can do!

The amazing photo above: Photographers Dean Rutz and Karen Ducey

Please contact Dean and Karen at: karenducey@comcast.net or www.threedogweddings.com

Where Oh Where Was I Last Saturday Night? Hmmm...beautiful downtown Poulsbo, Washington!

Brenda and Chris Ruddick, January 26, 2008
Poulsbo, Washington
"...just look at the joy on Brenda's face during her ceremony!"

I had the honor of officiating Chris and Brenda's wedding ceremony this past Saturday evening in Poulsbo, Washington. This was an interfaith ceremony, celebrating Brenda's Jewish heritage and Chris's more non-denominational background. Married under a Chuppah, Chris and Brenda were truly in the moment - and the joy just shined thru with laughter and humor.

- PHOTO: The wonderful photo above was taken by the marvelous Laurence Kim - you can see his work at www.laurencekim.com - Laurence is one of Seattle's most amazing wedding photographers.

Congratulations, Chris and Brenda!

BIG TIP: BE SMART AND GIVE YOURSELF A 'BUFFER DAY' WHEN PLANNING YOUR REHEARSAL...

Casey and Kimberly, The Salish Lodge

"a small and intimate ceremony with family and friends"

Here's my big tip of the day when scheduling your wedding rehearsal:

"give yourself a buffer day!"

That's right - if your wedding is on a Friday evening, rehearse on Wednesday. If your wedding is on Saturday, rehearsal on Thursday.

You'll find that by giving yourself a buffer day, you walk into your wedding day experience more rested and at peace. If you load a full wedding rehearsal and dinner the day before, you may be more tired and overwhelmed going into your big day.

Take a buffer day - enjoy time with your Sweetheat and family and friends and attend to last minute details with ease.

Post Wedding Show "Cake Coma!

THE MARVELOUS BRENT & JEN!

Waterways Cruises, Seattle, WA, 2007

I'm in a post-wedding show "cake coma!"

Truth? My real motive for cruising the aisles of the yearly January Wedding Show are the "cake samples." I'm a baker at heart and am often in the kitchen at home creating something with sugar and flour, much to the chagrin of my husband, Greg, who has quite the sweet tooth.

The yearly wedding show is my excuse for sampling the best cakes out there and my yummy winner for this year (as last year) is Sugar Rush Baking Company in West Seattle, www.sugarrushbakingcompany.com - take a peak and go visit!

Wedding Vows: They Are More Than "I Will Do This, I Promise This, I Commit To This..."

Beautiful Day. A Truly Beautiful Couple

Scott and Sarah, Alderbrook Resort, 2007

When I look back on this past year, and look at the many diverse and interesting experiences I have had as a Wedding Celebrant/Officiant, one thing is very true for me: I feel so incredibly blessed to do this work and be with a couple on their wedding day.

I loved officiating Scott and Sarah's Fall wedding at the Alderbrook Resort in Union, Washington. Not only was it a glorious day but this ceremony was made extra sweet as Scott and Sarah shared wedding vows that were written from the heart and uniquely theirs: poignant, funny, deeply touching and very honoring.

If you are getting married and elect to write your vows, ask me about different ways to do this. Each couple that comes to me is so very different and vows are a wonderful opportunity to make your wedding ceremony fully your own.

Add A New Family Member! Adopt Special Needs Cocker Spaniel "Handsome Henry."

HANDSOME HENRY SEEKS FOREVER HOME!

I love this ceremony work that I do very much. AND a big part of my volunteer life evolves around rescuing, rehabilitating and re-homing neglected/abused and "death row" dogs. So, I am going to disgress from "everything wedding" for a moment. If you or someone you know loves cocker spaniels and would love to adopt a special needs boy who is spunky, adventurous, courageous and very handsome, please let me know. Handsome Henry has had quite a journey so far in his 3+ years and one of my rescue groups is searching for a most beautiful home for him.

Looking Forward To My 2008 Wedding Season...

The Wonderful Max and Kristin Palmer, 2007

Waterways Cruises, Lake Union, Seattle

During November and December, I have a number of wonderful weddings and most of my work is meeting with couples who are planning weddings for next year. I love this part of my work - I get the amazing opportunity to meet loving and committed couples devoted to creating and building a meaningful and poignant wedding ceremony and celebration. And while it's true that I want the opportunity to work with many of these couples, I do not push.

You see, I truly believe there is a synchronicity to the universe - an invisible world that is at work at all times and in all ways. For me, a wedding ceremony is one of life's greatest defining moments and transitions and I'd like to think that if I am to be with a couple on their wedding day, they'll find me - and we'll like each other and move forward together. It's as easy and as complicated as that! So, here are to the wonderful couples that I will be working with next year as I break out my calendar and start to build a roadmap for 2008.

Jeff & Lynley, DeLille Cellars, Summer, 2007

Sometimes, laughter is so very wonderful during a wedding ceremony.

Funny thing, though. From where I stand, I often feel/see that people are not accustomed to smiling big and/or laughing elegantly during a ceremony.

So, I'm a personal and lighthearted mission to change this!

When laughter or wit is done well within a ceremony, it relaxes everyone.

Even me.

November - Facilitating and Teaching My Wonderful 12-Week Class to Celebrants From All Around The Country...

Kanishka and Marisa, 2007, Stimson Green Mansion*

*Photo: The amazing, creative and sparkly April Greer -

Wedding Photographer Extraordinaire! www.aprilgreer.com

Each Fall, I teach a 12-week course to Celebrants around the County on how to craft and create a Celebrancy Practice that offers very personalized and custom ceremonies to individuals, couples and families.

This Fall, I'm having so much fun! I have a great group of 12 Celebrants from all parts - including Oregon, Wyoming, New Jersey, Illinois and more. All are in different stages of building their Celebrancy Practices and it's my pleasure and honor to work intimately with this group to forward the Celebrancy movement within the United States.

THE 'DUTRO' WEDDING DOGS!

Scott and Suzi Dutro, Summer, 2007

It's Saturday, October 20th, and this evening, I am marrying the marvelous Andrew and Jackie at a candlelight ceremony at Bastyr Chapel in Kenmore. Walking down the aisle in his role as ring bearer will be "Leonard," a beloved dog (breed: boxer) who is a wonderful part of Jackie's family. We weren't sure if Leonard was going to make it to this day as he has cancer and is living life one day - and woof - at a time. So, today is a most happy day in so many ways. Congratulations, Andrew and Jackie Paffrath!

2007 Wedding Season - It's Saturday Evening, October 6th, and I'm at the "Unofficial End" of my 9-Month Season....

Casey and Suzi Axe, 2007

St. Paul's Church, Port Gamble, WA

It's Sat. evening, October 6th, and I am "marking" this day with gratitude.

Photo: The lovely Laurel McConnell, www.mcconnellphoto.com

It's my "unofficial" end of a very full and intense 9-month wedding season. I just returned from marrying the wonderful Shawn and Nicole at The Woodmark Hotel in Kirkland and my heart is full of gratitude for many things this work year....

• The wonderful couples I am so blessed to work with and marry.
• All of the amazing vendors who help make every wedding beautiful.
• Traffic - for cooperating beautifully this year.
• My husband, Greg, for all of his love and support.
• Our four dogs and my animal rescue work which keeps me grounded.
• For new friendships developed with family and friends of my couples.

Most of all, I am deeply appreciative for each opportunity to be an intimate and small part of a couple's wedding day. Here's to a quiet Fall season of rest, contemplation, fun/travel and of course, a few more weddings!

WRITING YOUR WEDDING VOWS - There is no "right way" to do this....it's all from the heart...

John & Maggie Lahey, Summer of 2007

Beau Lodge, Bow, Washington

Photo: www.fireflyphotos.net - The wonderful Greta!

If you are writing your own wedding vows, I'll make this short and sweet.

Write from the heart.

Wedding vows are less about what you "promise" or what you "will do."

Wedding vows are all about how you will show up in your marriage. What you love, respect, admire and cherish about your Sweetheart. How your relationship supports your growth and healing. How you are blessed to be with your Sweetheart for life.

Consider this simple counsel when "writing your wedding vows." And yes, humor is very good, too!

Creating a "Spiritual Wedding Ceremony" - Often A Challenge For Couples...

Congratulations to Thom & Susie Cosgrove, 2007
DAR House, Seattle, Washington

Photo: www.claremariephotography.com - the Fabulous Clare!

When a couple comes to me, we often work to create a meaningful and poignant wedding ceremony which incorporates different religious/spiritual/secular traditions and beliefs. In this work that I do, my task is to craft and deliver a ceremony which reflects a couple's love story, relationship and gratitude to family/friends - and so much more.

Often, couples who work with me want a "spiritual wedding ceremony" and at times have trouble putting their thoughts into words. Rev. Judith Johnson does this well and I'd like to share the following that she wrote:

"When a couple chooses to be married outside the doctrinal definitions of a particular religion or spiritual path, they have the opportunity to put their signature on the wedding ceremony so that it reflects their individual and combined beliefs and values. Every word, every gesture, can be imbued with a deep significance for the couple."

Judith and I are on the the same page - "a wedding ceremony is a wonderful opportunity for self-expression and a declaration of the power of love!"

Jeff & Lynley Shaw - And The Blue Angels Wedding Fly-Over!!

The Fabulous Jeff & Lynley Shaw

August 4, 2007, DeLille Cellars, Woodinville, WA

"And The Surprise Roar & Fly-Over Of The Blue Angels!

You can't help but absolutely love Jeff and Lynley Shaw. Not only is this couple lovely in every way (and thank you for the honor of being with both of you on your wedding day!) but with Jeff and Lynley, you never know how things are going to go.

Literally!

And in the middle of Jeff and Lynley's wedding ceremony on August 4th, the Blue Angels did a low fly-over their ceremony location - in Woodinville! Yes, Woodinville! The roar and surprise was an absolute delight and such an amazing moment for all of us.

So, yes, it's true. When it comes to an actual wedding ceremony, you never know what - or who - is actually going to show up!

Photo Credit: The Fabulous Carmen Chan of Carmen Chan Photography: www.carmenchanphotography.com

KELSEY & PETER

July 21, 2007, Tarboo Bay, Washington

I was so delighted to bea part of Kelsey and Peter's wedding ceremony this summer at Tarboo Bay on the Olympic Peninsula. It was a rainy weekend and the drops didn't diminish the joy of the 200 people present to surround this wonderful couple with love, support and wonderful memories. Kelsey and Peter planted a beautiful tree at the place they were married as a wonderful and living memento of their day. Congratulations, Kelsey & Peter!

Handsome Henry (Rescued Blind & Sight Restored in One Eye) Needs Loving & Forever Home...

HANDSOME HENRY SEEKS LOVING GUARDIAN(S)!

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While my wedding work is wonderful and fulfilling, I am also involved in rescuing neglected and abandoned dogs throughout the Puget Sound area.

One of my rescue groups recently rescued 3-year-old cocker spaniel Henry from a kill shelter, the day before he was to be killed. Henry was blind since birth and we found out that one of his eyes was a candidate for surgery.

So, this wonderful rescue group (http://www.vipp.org/) raised the funds for this very important surgery (not cheap!) and Henry's eyesight was restored in one of his eyes. And this little guy's life has changed dramatically. He plays, he trys to catch cookies, he loves sleeping on the bed and being close, he thinks car rides are very fun and he's a wonderful companion.

Because of Henry's special needs (needs eye drops every day for the rest of his life) and because so many volunteer hours and funds went into this dog, our rescue group is seeking a most fabulous and life-long home for Handsome Henry.

If you or somebody you know would like to consider adding Henry to your family as a full-fledged family member, please email me at anne@annemariejuhlian.com. Henry is healthy overall, neutered and up-to-date on all his shots. A $200 re-homing fee to the non-profit rescue group, application and home visit are requested.

Isn't Henry so very handsome?!

OH DEAR! I-5 Lane Closures Start Tomorrow - Send A Special Note To Guests...

Edward & Nichole Thornton

July 19, 2007, Chinese Room/Smith Tower, Seattle

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If you are having your wedding between August 11th and August 30th, and if you are in the area particularly affected by the I-5 lane closures (I-5 North from Spokane Street to I-90), let your guests know what is going on - ASAP!

Send a group email, send a written note or create a phone tree and let guests know about I-5 and to plan on creating extra travel time to reach your wedding ceremony on time.

I always allow plenty of time between two weddings on a day and what may take 10 minutes from South Seattle to downtown Seattle may now take over an hour or more. Talk about getting to the chapel on time!

What Makes For A Wonderful And Authentic Wedding Ceremony? Imperfection...

John & Rebecca Ibsen, Married on July 5, 2007

Kiana Lodge, Poulsbo, WA

**Photo Courtesy of the wonderful Clare Marie:

www.claremariephotography.com

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May I be blunt? In this work that I do, I see a lot of "behind the scenes stuff." And truly, what appears to be "true" in those perfect wedding magazines, usually isn't so. And who wants a perfect wedding day anyway?

It's the wedding day imperfections that are often the "icing on the cake" - literally! I work work with couples who are charming and laid-back, confident in their planning and who allow others to step in and take care of them for a day or weekend.

I also work with couples who micro-manage details and who are so over concerned about "getting things right" that they often miss out on the joy of an imperfect day - and the laughter and gleeful memories that accompany imperfection.

So, on a wedding day, embrace imperfection. Know that some details may not come together and that's darn okay.

This past weekend, I had six wonderful weddings with couples who were all truly marvelous. Cheers to: Andrea and Brandon, Reza and Jessica, Aubree and Kurt, Susie and Thom, Kimberly and Paul and my long-distance couple (the drive was worth it!) - John and Maggie!

The Wedding Weekend of "Rain" - Tents, Tents, Tent...and More Tents!

The Fabulous Andy & Kristin Pfandler

Married July 14, 2007, Laurel Manor, Sumner, WA

Last weekend, I married Andy and Kristin and you couldn't find enough shade or get enough to drink - it was that hot!

Well, this past weekend was another story.

Rain, rain rain - and on one of the most reliable wedding weekends of the summer.

Edward and Nichole beat the rain by being married at the Smith Tower on the sunny Thursday before all of this weather chaos. Terry and Tara beat the rain on Friday evening at the Woodlake Park Rose Garden, only to be blessed by raindrops as they were pronounced husband and wife (very fun!).

Now, Saturday. I was in Sammamish at Beaver Lake Park and married Martin and Dee Dee - they had good weather but I'm still wondering what the rest of the afternoon was like for them. And then it was on to Tarboo Bay on the Olympic Peninsula for the festive and remarkable wedding of Peter and Kelsey - where we broke out the umbrellas and 200+ guests were good-hearted about Mother Nature.

And after hearing that yesterday (Sunday) was supposed to be the "rain of all rains," the day was remarkably subdued. Nicholas and Katherine were married under tents (smart couple!) in Bellevue and Brian and Suzanne shared their commitment in front of family and friends at Kiana Lodge, Poulsbo.

So, here's to a wedding weekend that will be remembered for years go come!

** Photo courtesy of the wonderful Amy Parsons: www.amyparsons.com

Your Wedding License - Bring It, Pack It - Whatever It Takes To Have It With You On Your Wedding Day!

The Wonderful Muraari and Erin Vasudevan...

Married June 29, 2007, Washington Park Arboretum

I'm supposed to be taking the day off so I'll make this short and sweet - and good!

The Wedding License. What is all the hoopla?

Well, if you don't have one, an Officiant can't marry you. It's as simple and as complicated as that. While I gently remind each of my couples several times to bring/carry/pack their license, once or twice a year there is a snafu (like on 7/7/07 for me this year) and things get complicated.

1. If you are having a rehearsal, bring your wedding license to rehearsal.
2. If you don't have a rehearsal or forget to bring your license to rehearsal, pack your license and double-check before leaving the house for your wedding ceremony.

Please remember, there is a three-day waiting period from the date you apply for/pick-up your license - i.e., you need to build in three days of "wait time" before you can be married.

Good Luck, Synchronicity - Whatever You Call It, 7/7/07 Is One Of The Biggest Wedding Days Of This Decade...

Luke and Amanda Krupski, Delille Cellars

June 21, 2007

"I officiated Luke and Amanda's wonderful ceremony on a gorgeous Thursday evening, with one of the largest and most fun wedding parties I have worked with in a long time Congratulations, Luke and Amanda!

photo courtesy of the wonderful Ron Shaw at www.alwaysfocusedonyou.com

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As I write this, I am heading into a full work weekend and everyone I know who works within the world of weddings, is feeling a bit maxed/overloaded and "over-the-top."

You see, it's 7/7/07.

Huh?

Apparently, this marvelous combination of numbers has a meaning of "good luck" and many couples have chosen this day to be married. To be truthful, I've probably turned down over 100 couples for this day alone. And an Officiant friend of mine in Las Vegas says they are starting weddings on the :15 minute increment and going thru 2:00 a.m.

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So, here is to all of the couples who will be married on 7/7/07....And to the five wonderful couples I am marrying: Suzi and Scott, Sarah and David, Barrett and Lisa, Nancy and Tim, Sharlene and Jacob.

What I Know For Sure About Weddings With a Big, Large (Grande!) Guest List!

Shawn & Nicola, 2007

Grand Hilton Hotel, Seattle, WA

photo courtesy: www.jenandjody.com

I had the honor of marrying the very delightful Nicola and handsome Shawn in a wedding ceremony before a packed room of family and friends at the Grand Hilton Hotel this Spring.

Nicola and Shawn had quite the troop of family and friends - a very large gathering of people who were so happy about the marriage of this very delightful couple.

If you are planning a wedding with a large guest list, here are a three things I know for sure - tips I've picked up from "working behind the scenes" at many a wedding:

- If you have a large guest list, please consider my :30 minute rule - i.e., if you're having a 4:00 p.m. wedding, put 3:30 p.m. on your invites. This gives you more room to elegantly welcome people and fudge time if there are traffic snafus, etc.

- If you can squeeze it into the budget (delete other things!), hire a "day of" coordinator to help be your "air traffic controller" on your wedding day. In my opinion, there isn't better money spent. And if you'd like a referral, please let me know.

- Give guests a "job" and/or directions. Before your pronouncement in your wedding ceremony and/or in your ceremony program, give guests directions on "what to do next" once the ceremony is concluded. People like knowing what's going on and if they have have a strong sense of "what to do next," your reception starts in a smoother manner.

Making Your Wedding Processional Uniquely Your Own...Beginning your Wedding Ceremony...

Lauren & Steven

May 12, 2007, Whidbey Island, WA

On Saturday, May 12th, I had the honor of marrying Lauren and Steve at the Whidbey Institute on Whidbey Island.

Lauren and Steven made the opening of their ceremony uniquely their own. A large bell was rung to signal the beginning start of their ceremony. Beautiful harp music then began and the wedding party entered. For their entrance, Lauren and Steven together walked down a high dirt path outside of the ceremony area and took their time - enjoying the two minutes or so that it took them to make their way to the ceremony area. And when they entered, there were smiles all the way around.

As you work to create your ceremony start or "processional," look for elements to add that make it unique and special for the two of you. You don't have to do the "same 'ol, same 'ol" when it comes to a processional. Today, couples are shaking up ritual so that a wedding ceremony reflects a couple's tastes, interests, relationship and elegantly includes family and friends.

Wedding Ceremony Weather - Rainy, Cool, Very Hot - A Few Important Planning Tips...

Ryan and Jennifer Bolz *

May 27, 2007, Parsons Garden, Seattle

"and the sun shined through...

I officiate at many outdoor wedding ceremonies.

And there is this thing called "Northwest weather."

In planning your outdoor ceremony here are a few ideas and thoughts to consider if you need to go to "Plan B" on your wedding day:

On the morning of your wedding ceremony: Don't wait until an hour or two before your ceremony to make a decision about the rainy or cloudy weather. To make things easier and more elegant your wedding day, make your best decision as early as possible as to the location of your wedding ceremony and stick with it.

Create a "weather team" - Yes, if a week or so before your wedding the weather forecast is looking iffy, assign a couple of people jobs and tasks if you need to go to "Plan B." This way, there is a plan in place with specific people to move the ceremony indoors, call a list of guests, etc., change venues, etc. And if the weather is looking iffy and you still want to hold your ceremony outdoors, reserve and rent a tent for the occasion.

"Rain" is one thing - "Heat" is another - In this work that I do, I've officiated in the cold and rain and more often than this, in the blazing heat. And here is what I know for sure: many of my couples get married in the hot summer months and being married in 90' degree sun isn't comfortable. If you are being married outdoors and on a very hot summer day, consider being married in the shade (makes for better pictures!) or under some cover so that you and your family/friends aren't melting.

Just thoughts for this cloudy Monday morning...

*** Beautiful photo by Sean Werner, Werner's Photography, www.weddingphotog.com